Ten Guiding Principles of Loving The Self

Loving the Self is:
  •   the willingness to acknowledge and praise the self
  •   the ability to love and stop punishing the self
  •   surrounding the self with an abundance of good friends
  •   giving the self what you want and feeling you deserve it
  •   letting others inside to touch the self rather than submit to loneliness
  •   maintaining authority over the self and not giving it away to another
  •   acknowledging that a mistake or wrong was committed and being
      able to forgive the self
  •   trusting the self
  •   seeing the self as equal, not inferior or superior to others
  •   the turning of the self’s negative thoughts into positive affirmations


Guideposts for Success on the Therapeutic Journey
  •   We do not accept "I don't know" as a response.
      We will focus on being insightful. We shall not accept "I don't know" as the response.
      It is the responsibility of the traveler to explore within the self, to be insightful,
      to experience the journey and respond to, rather than avoid the questions which are key
      to the truth which lies within.
  •   There is no "try".
      We will focus on the 'doing'. There is no 'try'.
      To focus on 'try' will lead to success in 'trying' and failure in 'doing'.
      We do not try. We do or we do not.
  •   We must focus on our wants and not our needs.
      We will focus on what 'we want' and not our needs. Needs are about survival and existence.
      They lack growth or development. To 'want' is about empowerment: reinforcing choices in
      our directions and decisions.
  •   Leave your thoughts at the door.
      We will focus on our feelings and not our thoughts. Our thoughts are transparent,
      floating along like clouds, whereas our feelings are deep like the ocean and are forever.
      Leave your thoughts at the door, you may pick them up as you exit the session.
  •   We seek the path less traveled.
      We will focus on the journey and not the destination. We seek to experience the path less traveled.
      The paths of 'could have', 'should have', and 'would have' are dead ends... going nowhere.
      We honor the journey by reflecting on the experience of what we can do, shall do and will do.
  •   A journey of a thousand miles begins with the reaction of one step, one word or one act.
      We will focus on transforming our reactions into responses.  Our reactions can be immediate and
      may place us in danger or at risk, whereas a response can be a plan that empowers us through
      the calm, calculated collection of our feelings, thoughts and actions.